If you’ve been considering penis enlargement – you’re not alone. According to Michael O’Leary, MD, professor of urologic surgery at Harvard Medical School and a urologist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, “I think there isn’t a guy in the world who hasn’t wished his penis were an inch or two longer.”

However, the world of penis enlargement has always been underground – carrying a stigma – which has allowed snake oil salesmen to lurk in the shadows – preying on men who just desperately want to improve themselves and their sex lives.

Let’s pull back the curtains, and really take a hard look at penis enlargement – what works, and more importantly, what doesn’t.

How Small is a Small Penis?

Although some studies disagree, and there can be differences among different demographics, the average erect penis ranges between 5 and 6 inches in length, and is approximately 4 inches in girth. Of course, the flaccid penis range of sizes vary significantly, given that some men are “showers” (naturally have a larger flaccid size, but do not gain as much size when erect) and some are “growers” (men who have a smaller flaccid size, but gain a significant amount of size when erect).

This erect penis size is more than adequate, given proper stamina, erection quality and skill, to satisfy a female partner. You can learn more about female anatomy here –

• A Little Bit About Female Anatomy: AKA How Big is the Vagina?
• Where is the G-Spot?

Men who are under 3 inches in erect length are typically considered to have a micropenis. You can read more about penis size here –  Do I Have a Small Penis? How to Increase Your Penis Size if You Do

Surprisingly, men pursuing penis enlargement have a wide range of starting penis sizes. From those who have smaller than average penises, to those who are considerably well-endowed, penis enlargement often isn’t about a universal sought after number, but rather about being happy with your size – whatever that may be.

Penis Enlargement Pills

Penis enlargement pills are probably the one area of male enhancement that has seen the most con artists. The stereotypical e-mails: “Get 3 Inches Bigger in 30 Days!” have plagued inboxes for years. The challenge is many pills are no better than sugar pills – placebos. There’s very little oversight in “natural remedies” so it’s easy for less scrupulous companies to make big promises with supplements that do very little.

THE TRUTH: The reality is there are several great penis supplements on the market,
but supplements ALONE aren’t going to get you significant penis enlargement results.

Instead, reputable penis supplements can help improve blood flow to your penis and improve penile health, which can improve your erection quality and enhance your penis enlargement efforts.

Read more about which ingredients are actually helpful and what they do here —

Penis Supplement Ingredients

Penis Enlargement Creams

Penis enlargement creams is another area where shadier manufacturers have lurked. Again, these typically fall under the “natural remedies” type products, so have very little oversight.

THE TRUTH: Much like penis enlargement pills, penis enlargement creams or gels
aren’t going to give you permanent penis enlargement results, when used alone.

Like supplements, there are ingredients in good quality male enhancement gels and creams that can improve your erection quality. This increase in blood flow can enhance your penis enlargement efforts, and can give you a temporary larger penis erection, due to the increased bloodflow.

If you’re looking for a good quality cream or gel, to improve your erection, we recommend:

• Enlargel
• ProSolution Gel

Penis Enlargement Devices

Penis enlargement devices typically include three different types of equipment: pumps, extender and hangers. These devices create microtears in the penile tissues to facilitate new cellular growth, to get penis enlargement.

THE TRUTH: When used consistently and properly, penis enlargement
devices can get real, measurable, permanent penis enlargement results.

Our members have had the best results from the following products…

Penis Pumps

• Bathmate – The original hydropump that gives instant, temporary penis enlargement results, and with consistent usage, these results become permanent. Especially great for those looking for  both penis length and penis girth enlargement.

Penis Extenders

• Phallosan Forte – The most comfortable penis extender on the market. It’s unique design makes it so discreet, you can wear it under your normal clothes and go about your day – even jeans! In addition to penis enlargement results, it can be useful in correcting penis curve.

Penis Hangers

• LG Hanger – This vacuum-based penis hanging device is great for those looking to take their penis enlargement to the next level. Use coupon code: PEGYM and save $10 on your purchase.
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• Stealth for Men – Stealth is the most effective and unique male enhancement underwear for men looking to boost their size, self-confidence and sex appeal. You not only get immediate bulge-enhancement, but when worn regularly it trains your penis to hang longer!

Penis Enlargement Exercises

From the Jelq, which has been used for decades, to the more complicated Leg Tuck Pull, there are a variety of penis enlargement exercises that are out there that require nothing more than your hands and a little private time.

THE TRUTH: Manual penis enlargement exercises, when done consistently,
properly, at the right intensity and frequency, and in the right combination, can result in
real, permanent, measurable penis enlargement results.

You can read about thousands of accounts of PEGym members who’ve successfully gained both penis length and penis girth in our Success Forum – as well as elsewhere on our forums.

Like traditional exercise, penis enlargement exercises don’t happen instantaneously. It takes time. And you have to be consistent. A proper exercise regime is also critical, to be sure you get results. The trainers at meCoach can help you develop a personalized training plan, unique to your goals and your needs.

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about maintaining an erection, tissue stretch and a loss of EQ when dieting, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions

Q1. I’m having trouble maintaining a standing erection for more than 15 to 30 seconds without any stimulation!…

…Could there be something wrong with me? This is when I’m by myself. I’m not using any Viagra, porn or mental thoughts of naked women.

Big Al: With the exception of going through periods of high libido without relief or morning woods, one shouldn’t necessarily expect to maintain an erection in the absence of stimulation. This is especially the case if you’re able to get aroused without tactile stimulation in scenarios where you’re sexually aroused. Also, don’t make the mistake of frequently “testing” your erections to check your erection quality (EQ). This becomes an obsession for some, and the increased negative emotional backdrop combined with repeated testings can create a negative condition effect with can impact EQ.

Q. I’ve seen you write about getting a quality tissue stretch from your exercises…

…but what does this mean, exactly?

Big Al: The most “pure” example of tissue stretch can be felt when performing an erect kegel. The hyperexpansion one feels when performing the exercise is similar to what one should expect when performing a quality girth movement. With length work you should feel the basal ligaments being stretched during the initial part of the exercise. As the ligaments attenuate, you should then feel the shaft itself (tunica and fascia) begin to elongate.

Q. I’ve been dieting to get ripped and my EQ feels like it’s decreasing…

…I’m also finding myself more tired. Could diet and activity be causing my EQ to drop? Should I perform my male enhancement workouts before or after cardio?

Big Al: A change in diet and physical activity can impact EQ negatively if overall energy levels feel decreased. You may want to look into your caloric intake, activity levels, and sleep patterns to see where the deficiency is.

If you’re training cardio, you should perform your male enhancement training before or very well afterwards.

One of the more common issues we come across at PEGym is Penile Dysmorphic Disorder. This disorder can ruin a man’s personal relationships, and can even spill into other areas of his life, as his self-confidence plummets and his obsession grows.

But, what is penile dysmorphic disorder?

And, more importantly, how do you know if you have it?

What is Penile Dysmorphic Disorder?

Penile Dysmorphic Disorder is a penis-specific form of  Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

Body Dysmorphic Disorder, in general, is a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.  The flaw may be minor or imagined. But the person may spend hours a day trying to fix it. The person may try many cosmetic procedures or exercise to excess. People with this disorder may frequently examine their appearance in a mirror, constantly compare their appearance with that of others, and avoid social situations or photos.

For Penile Dysmorphic Disorder, this focus in on the penis. This is often centered on penis size, and a feeling that their penis is too small, but can include other aesthetic concerns, such as penis curve, erection angle, veins (or lack thereof) on the penis, or even the color of the penile skin.

In research conducted at King’s College London, the men reported they first started to think their penis was too small around the age of 15 or 16. These men said their penis size became a significant problem for them a few years later, when they were 18 or 19. When it becomes an obsession, penile dysmorphic disorder, this obsession can also lead to sexual dysfunction.

How To Tell if You Have Penile Dysmorphic Disorder

If you want a larger penis, you’re not alone. An online survey of over 25,000 men found that nearly half of the participants were unhappy with their current size, with 45% wanting to be larger and 0.2% wanting to be smaller.  The question becomes, when does a desire to improve yourself actually become a mental obsessive disorder?

Think about these questions:

• Do you measure your penis daily or more often?
• Does your concern about your penis size prevent you from having intimate relationships?
• Have you asked your partner how you rank in size, against other penises they’ve had?
• Do you continue to look up surveys and statistics about average penis size and/or penis size women want, despite previously investigating this information?
• Are you 5 inches in length, erect, but still feel like your penis is too small to be desirable/satisfying?
• Have you avoided non-romantic situations where others may see your penis, because you’re worried about your size – such as showering in a gym locker room.
• Does the thought of a partner seeing you naked make you feel anxious?
• Have you ever had an issue with obsessive compulsive disorder?
• Do you feel like or know that others have mocked you because of your penis size?
• Do you look at photos of other penises and compare yourself to them?
• Do you try to hide the fact that you have a small penis by carefully choosing your clothing?
• Have you considered extreme measures to increase the size of your penis, such as: surgery or implants?
• Has the concern over your penis size caused you distress on a nearly daily basis?

If you’ve answered YES to 2 or more of these questions, you may have an issue with Penile Dysmorphic Disorder.

What to Do if You Think You May Have Penile Dysmorphic Disorder

If you’ve answered yes to 2 or more of the above questions, please talk to a mental health professional. There is definitely a difference between men who are pursuing penis enlargement as a means of self-improvement, to those with this sometimes debilitating condition. Only a mental health professional can diagnose whether or not you have PDD.

Embarrassment and shame are the two reasons why so many men don’t get help with Penile Dysmorphic Disorder. Without treatment, Penile Dysmorphic doesn’t get better. In fact, it likely will get worse – leading to sexual dysfunction (as mentioned earlier) and even severe depression and anxiety – even suicide.

Treatment often includes a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy and medications.  Cognitive behavioral therapy will help you learn how to deal with the negative thoughts and find alternate ways to handle them. Medications often focus on treating the associated depression.

Our members LOVE Stealth for Men Innerwear!  The immediate “bulge enhancement” plus the anti-turtling effect that trains your penis to hang longer naturally… yeah, Stealth Innerwear is pretty awesome!

Well – what’s better that that?

A buy one, get one free offer!

Demand for Stealth for Men Innerwear has skyrocketed, which has resulted in a stock shortage. The good news? Their new shipment is in the US and just waiting to clear US Customs!  But, because of the delay in shipment, Stealth is offering this very limited time sale!

Now, order one Stealth for Men Innerwear and you’ll get a second one for free! That’s a $35.00 value!

This is great, because as you wear your Innerwear daily, it gives you a chance to swap them out.

How do you get your free Innerwear? Easy!

To redeem, enter the word – PE-BOGO – in the order notes section (under the address section on the checkout page) and Stealth for Men will include a second one when shipping.

IMPORTANT: Don’t add the PE-BOGO in the coupon code box as it will show up as invalid. 

This sale ends April 2nd – so hurry and get your free Innerwear now!

Expert Trainer and Nutritionist, Jake Kocherhans’ inSHAPE fitness program helps those looking to improve their health and fitness. As we’ve talked about for years, your general fitness is critical to maximizing your sexual fitness. Strength and cardio stamina are key to be being a great lover. Plus, a healthy body weight and strong cardio system is needed for the hardest erection possible.

This is where fitness programs, like inSHAPE and nutrition programs like Isagenix, really come into play.

What makes inSHAPE so different from other programs out there is the importance they place on adaptation. Without proper phasing, it can be easy for our body’s to become adapted to what they’re doing and stop progressing. You may see great results initially, but if you’re not incorporating different stimulus into your training, those results will eventually begin to plateau. With inSHAPE, you’ll have six months worth of phased programming designed to take your body through a different style of training every four weeks. With new workouts provided every two weeks, you’ll never get tired of the same old routine.

The other factor that separates inSHAPE Fitness from other programs is the way they incorporate frequency into our program. It only makes sense that the more you’re constantly stimulating your muscles, the quicker they will get stronger & grow. As more and more science comes out supporting the idea of increasing frequency as a means to promote muscle growth, inSHAPE made it a priority to incorporate it into the program in a way that would maximize your results without sacrificing adequate recovery

For less than 50 cents a day, you’ll have unlimited access to everything you need to achieve your fitness goals:

• 6 MONTHS OF PHASED EXERCISES designed specifically to avoid plateaus and help you see results week after week.
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• EXERCISE LIBRARY with instructional videos & tutorials on how to perform each movement properly.
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• FULL NUTRITION GUIDE & MEAL CALCULATOR that will provide you with a full understanding of exactly what you need to eat to reach your goals.
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• FREE E-BOOK covering in-depth tips & strategies for how to maximize your time in the gym.
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• PRIVATE FACEBOOK COACHING GROUP where expert trainer & nutritionist Jake Kocherhans answers questions directly, and does weekly video Q&A’s. The group is also a great place to build community, support & motivate each other, and hold one another accountable.

Whether you’re looking to lose weight, build muscle, combat aging, or just live a healthier lifestyle, Isagenix has what you need.  We’ve said it numerous times over the years —

Your overall health is CRITICAL to your sexual health!

What good is sexual stamina, if your lack of cardio stamina means you get winded easily? What good is is a long, thick penis, if your arm and/or leg muscles tire out easily? What good is all the sexual technique in the world, if your sexual position choices are limited by your body weight and/or large tummy?

Plus, your erection quality completely depends on your cardiovascular health!

This is why we love Isagenix! No matter if you’re a professional athlete or a couch potato or someone in between – Isagenix will improve your overall health, and improve your sexual health! All while being –

• Gluten-free
• Low-glycemic carbs
• High protein
• SUPER-high quality undenatured  whey – which means your body is actually going to absorb and use that protein (unlike most protein drinks you can buy at your local big box retailer)!
• 22 vitamins and minerals – means each shake is a COMPLETE meal (healthier than our typical modern normal meals, in fact!)

And, until April 1st, all new customers get HUGE savings!! (MrKimberly & I have been personally using Isagenix since September and have never seen this big of a promotion!)

New Customers who join Isagenix during this promotion period are eligible for up to three promotions on their initial orders. Here’s how the Trifecta promotion breaks down:

1. Free ground shipping up to US$50/CA$55 with your initial order of any 30-day system or combination of products totaling 150 points.
2. Free one-year membership with your initial order of any 30-day system or combination of products totaling 150 points.
3. In addition to free ground shipping and free membership, new Customers who order any products totaling 200 points or more, on their initial orders can add 1 free 6-pack box of e+™ shots or a 12-pack of e+ shots at half price. (You must add the e+ box to your initial order at the time of purchase to receive this offer. A credit will be applied upon checkout.)

This generous free ground shipping offer is enough to ship the most massive of initial orders!

But wait, there’s more!

New Customers who join Isagenix with the Weight Loss Value Pak will receive an additional US/CA$29 off their order!

OH!  And, from now until March 31st, you can get AMPED Protein Bars Buy One Get One 50% Off!!

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I’m always interested in new treatment options for erectile dysfunction. ED is a serious problem that affects an astounding 52% of men. I’m also not a fan of medication, as the primary go-to treatment. Too many times we’re so eager to just ‘pop a pill’ for a quick, temporary symptom elimination – without addressing the real underlying problem.

So, my virtual ears perked up when I heard about a new procedure – GainsWave.

The procedure sounds odd. I’m not kidding.

Tens of thousands of sound waves are shot (is that the right word?) through your penis, in the attempt to improve blood flow. And, as any PEGym member will know, when it comes to erection strength – bloodflow is CRITICAL.  Now, as weird as this procedure sounds, it’s getting some buzz from sexual health professionals.

“People in the community who deal with erectile dysfunction often use the word ‘promising’ when they talk about this therapy,” says Dr. Michael Reitano, the physician-in-residence for men’s health startup Roman, the creators of the ground-breaking ED telemedicine company.

The sound waves, supposedly, help stimulate new blood vessel and nerve tissue growth. This, allows for better blood flow and may even improve penile tissue sensitivity.

Although similar technology is already being used for treatment of plantar fasciitis and lateral epicondylitis of the elbow, this new treatment hasn’t been approved by the Food and Drug Administration, for the use as treatment for erectile dysfunction. Early studies have found this new treatment safe and effective, long-term and larger studies definitely need to be done.

Only available so far in a few places, including NYC, if the early results hold out, it could be a game changer for many men. Although the device looks frightening (described as a cross between a nail gun and a heavy-duty vibrator), most men find it relatively painless, with just a pins-and-needles sensation.

Administered by a doctor, approximately once a week, for between six and 12 weeks, this procedure isn’t cheap. Averaging about $3,000, health insurance doesn’t cover any of it.

Of course, our position at PEGym is pretty well-known.

Your erection is often a very good indicator of your general overall health.

If you’re having erection difficulties, it could be an indicator of a more serious problem.  Cardiovascular disease, diabetes, unhealthy stress – all can be the root cause behind your ED. For this reason, your first step in addressing any ED issue is to talk to a medical professional.

Diet, exercise and reducing your stress should be a part of any ED treatment.

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about penis hanging, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions

Q. I’ve been thinking of starting weight hanging…

…and would like to consider all options. What hanger do you think would be best to start with?

Big Al: Hanging offers excellent benefits- the tension is constant and can be kept up as long as is needed, and the work is “hands free”. The usual limitations will depend on your conditioning and in the type of device you use.

If you’re very new to hanging and on a budget, making your own device might be a good first step. You can view instructions for creating such a device- along with a training routine here: https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-devices-forum/2821-make-penis-weight-hanger-routine.html

Save $10 – Use Coupon Code:       PEGYM

The more traditional hanging devices like the BIB can be used with good effects, but preparation and testing for using this device are a must. One has to adapt to the wear of the device, and even in the case of moderate weights extra padding is usually required.

There’s also the newer vacuum type devices like the LG Hanger (PEGym members save $10 by using coupon code PEGYM). This device not only bypasses the limitations of other hanging devices by eliminating constriction, but it can even foster greater glans size!

Do your research and give the above some thought before you make your purchase.

Q. Hi Al, I been hanging and I notice in my training…

…when I pick up the pace towards the end of the cycle with more time and weight I seem to lose steam. I don’t want to cut back on the reps, but my EQ starts to suffer. My first few weeks go really well though. I’m training on average 4 1/2 days a week. Please advise.

Big Al: Hanging more than 4 days a week can be wearing for someone unless they’re extremely conditioned. You might try reducing the frequency of your training as follows:

Weeks 1&2: 5 days a week

Weeks 3&4: 4.5 days per week

Weeks 5&6: 4 days per week

The gradual decrease in frequency should allow you to get more recovery time.

Let’s face it, when it comes to the fairer sex, well… we can be a little confusing. 

In this special edition of Ask Kimberly, I answer some of the most common questions men have for women. Hopefully this clears up some of the mystery – at least just a little.

Do you have a question or a situation you’d like me to weigh in on? Send me a direct message at forum name – KMWylie . As always, if your question is chosen for a post, your identity will be completely anonymous. So, don’t be shy! There are no dumb questions!

Check out our other Ask Kimberly questions here —

Ask Kimberly

NOTE: The answers below are based on my own opinion and conversations I’ve had with female friends. Not all women are the same – in fact, we’re all completely unique!

1. How often do women lie about having an orgasm? And, have you ever lied about having an orgasm?
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   Statistics vary greatly on how often women lie about having an orgasm, but some studies report more than 80% of women have faked their orgasm. There are several reasons why we may do this. No fault of your own, we may simply be tired or stressed out and realize an orgasm just isn’t in the cards at that time, and understanding men are very goal-oriented, we just want to alleviate your stress. Sometimes we fake it because, well… the sex just isn’t very good, and we want it to be over with.
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2. What’s the most important quality in a man?
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   When we’re talking about long-term partners, the top qualities in a man women are looking for include: caring, sense of humor, intelligence, confidence, devoted, empathetic, and great communicator. Notice, looks and money aren’t on that list. Why? Because although looks and money may attract a woman at first (especially superficial ones), no woman ever truly fell in love with a man because he had money or was good looking. On the contrary, women fall in love with men who are not traditionally physically attractive and are broke, every single day, because they have the qualities I list above.
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3. What’s the perfect size penis? How big of a penis is too big and how small of a penis is too small?
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   This is probably the question I get most often – both privately and on the forums. There is no perfect penis size. It’s more about what you DO with your penis, than its size. Rock-hard erection quality, solid stamina and good technique can take a below average-sized penis and make it a rockstar! Poor EQ, no stamina and poor technique can make even the biggest dick a dud in the sack. As far as how big is too big? I, personally, don’t like my cervix hit – so, if you’re so big that’s happening, and you’re not skilled enough to know how to prevent that from happening – that’s too big, in my books. However, there are some women who enjoy that cringing pain. A micropenis (under 3″ erect) would probably be in my personal category of “too small.” Now, there are lesbians around the world that will tell you that you don’t need a penis at all to have a satisfying sex life, so even a man with a micropenis can make up for it in other ways. Check out my article on vagina size and my article on where the G-spot is, to learn more about female anatomy, to get some perspective.
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4. What are some of your major turn-offs?
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   My biggest turn-off includes poor, personal hygiene. Greasy hair, dirty fingernails, bad breath, body odor, and/or dirty clothes… yeah, I’m not going to be turned on. Negative attitude ranks right up there too. If you’re constantly bitching about something (work, other people, the government, life in general), I’m also going to be turned off.
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5. What are some of your major turn-ons?
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   Other than good personal hygiene and a positive attitude, a guy who is playful is a huge turn-on to me. A good sense of humor is so, so sexy. Plus, I love a guy who actually acts like they’re interested in me. Make me feel like I’m the most amazing woman in the universe, and that’s going to really get me going. Touch me – not necessarily in sexual places. Like run your fingers along the back of my neck. Play with the palm of my hand and wrist. And kissing… lots of kissing!
   
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6. Others than bars/clubs, where’s the best place a guy can meet someone?
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   Bars and nightclubs are tough. Lots of people, but it’s noisy and usually women are with friends. It can be hard to approach someone in this venue. So, looking for other places to meet someone is smart. The best place to meet someone is doing activities you actually enjoy. So, if you like to workout – the gym. If you like to play volleyball – join a rec league. If you like to cook – take a cooking class. If you like to read – join a book club. This will already give you something in common with the women you approach.
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7. Why do women continue to use subtle hints with men, when they clearly don’t work?
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   The easy answer – because we’re eternal optimists! LOL Seriously, though, it’s because we want you to come to whatever conclusion we’re hinting at on your own, because then it’ll mean so much more. Example: We really like a band. In fact, you should’ve noticed that one of their songs is our ringtone. Now, this band is coming to town. We’d really like you to here this news and think, “Kimberly really likes ABC Band – I should get tickets!” That would be sweet and thoughtful! But, when we realize you probably haven’t been paying attention (either to our music tastes and/or the concert schedule), we decide to give you a little help. “Honey, did you see ABC Band is coming to town in June?” Now, we’re hoping this is going to turn on a little lightbulb in your head and you get those tickets, without further prompting. It’s still sweet and thoughtful, with this minor hint. Now, if we have to say, “I want to go to the ABC Band concert in June.” well, it takes away all of the thoughtfulness.
   
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8. What do you really think if your guy loses his erection or isn’t able to orgasm?
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   Our first thought is often, “What am I doing wrong?” I think this is a woman’s number 1 fear, when this happens. “Is he not attracted to me?” “Am I not good enough?” “Is he not enjoying sex with me?” We pretty much tend to blame ourselves, if our man can’t perform, for whatever reason. Because of this, it’s really, really important for men to reassure us that it’s not us (and keep reassuring us). And, yes, our guy not being able to orgasm is just as worrying to us as any erection difficulties. For women, we have to remind ourselves that 99% of the time, it’s absolutely nothing to do with us and try to be supportive of our man, so we don’t make the situation even worse.
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9. Why do women ask questions they really don’t want an honest answer to, like – Do I look fat in this outfit?
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   This one is silly, but we do it because we want reassurance. Whether it’s reassurance that we’re attractive – Do I look fat? Or, reassurance that you’re not going to leave us – Do you think she’s prettier than me? We sometimes just feel insecure and need you to build up our ego. However, if we really look awful in an outfit, don’t let us leave the house! Instead of saying we look fat in something (or ugly, etc.), approach it from a positive suggestion.  Example response to “Do I look fat in this outfit?” – You know, I really liked that dress you wore to dinner a couple weeks ago. The one with the flowers. You looked really good in that! You should wear that.
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10. Why is it such an issue that guys leave the toilet seat up?
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    There are a couple of reasons why this bothers us so much. First, it’s unsanitary. We don’t want to have to touch the toilet seat to put it down. I know, it means you guys have to touch it – but, that’s your choice, because you could sit to pee. Second, and most importantly, it’s a courtesy thing. You know it bugs us. Show us you care about our feelings with this one little thing. Leaving the toilet seat up screams to us, “I really don’t care what you want.”
    
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11. Why do women always go to the bathroom in groups?
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    Well, this is when we hold our Super Secret Women’s Society meetings, where we make plans to rule the world!  Seriously, though sometimes we do this, so we can continue talking or maybe even talk about our guys. Sometimes we just like the companionship. Sometimes we go, because we don’t want the women that do go to talk about us when we’re not there! OK, I don’t think I’ve ever worried about this, but I know some friends who would be concerned about this, with certain women. Most often, it’s just a social thing – no ulterior motives.
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12. Why do women dress so provocatively, but then complain when guys are checking them out?
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    We want to look our best, but we don’t want guys leering at us. There’s a difference between a guy seeing us and thinking we’re pretty, and one who is openly gawking at us. Dressing provocatively can help us feel good about ourselves. But, wolf whistles and/or inappropriate comments aren’t appropriate.
    
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13. Do women check out a guy’s package like guys check out women’s boobs?
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    For the most part – no. Women don’t look at a guy’s package as often as men check out women’s boobs. We’re looking at your smile – your hair – your arms – your butt.  Most of the time, men’s pants aren’t conducive for package checking out. But, even if they were it’s not something most women would actively look at. Now, I’ll admit, if you’re on the beach, in a Speedo, I might look briefly, but that’s out of curiosity, rather than actual sexual intention. And, if you have a great set of abs, I’m probably going to be focused on those instead.
    
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14. Do women actually like dick pics?
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    You have to be in a relationship where this is appropriate – first and foremost. I mean, if you’re just chatting with someone on Tinder and send an unsolicited dick pic… BAD! But, if your girl takes it as sexy and playful – we might like it.  However, even though I am a big fan of penises – a pic of MrKimberly’s penis (although it’s a very nice one!) is not really going to turn me on.
    
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15. Why do women always go for jerks over nice guys?
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    This is a very good question! Women go for jerks over nice guys for one reason – confidence. Confidence is a big turn on for many women. We are initially attracted to that. And, we have the hope that we’re going to be the woman that makes that asshat see the light and actually become a confident nice guy. That rarely happens. And, in the end, we usually end up marrying the nice guy. But, I know it’s so frustrating for the nice guys of the world, in the meantime. Be confident, and you’ll be the whole package deal from the beginning!
    
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Here at PEGym, we know one thing —

Penis extenders work!

How do we know this? More than a decade of members telling us so!  (Check out our Success Forum!) Thousands of members have reported penis enlargement gains, with penis extenders, like the Phallosan Forte.

However, one of the things we also know is male enhancement is an industry where a lot of promises are made – some from some less than scrupulous companies. So, I like to share actual medical studies (ones performed by real researchers and published in scholarly journals, not “studies” performed by companies just looking to promote their product) from time to time.

The following study was published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Understanding that few studies existed on the effectiveness of penis extenders on increasing penis size, this study was conducted by Doctors: Mohammadreza Nikoobakht MD, Alireza Shahnazari MD, Maedeh Rezaeidanesh MD, Abdolrasoul Mehrsai MD, and Gholamreza Pourmand MD.

Penis Extender Effectiveness Study Method

This prospective study was performed on subjects complaining about “short penis” who were presented to the authoring doctors’ clinic. After measuring the penile length in flaccid and stretched forms and penile circumference, patients were instructed to wear the penis extender for 4–6 hours per day during the first 2 weeks and then 9 hours per day until the end of the third month.

The subjects were also trained how to increase the force of the device during determined intervals. The patients were visited at the end of the first and third months, and penile length and circumference were measured and compared with the baseline measurements.

The primary end point of the study was changes in flaccid and stretched penis lengths compared with the baseline size during the 3 months follow‐up.

Penis Extender Effectiveness Study Results

Twenty-three men, with a mean age of 26.5 years old participated in the study. Here were the results:

• First month follow-up
  • Average flaccid penis length increased from 8.8 cm to 10.1 cm
  •  Average stretched penis length increased from 11.5 cm to 12.4 cm
• Third month follow-up
  • Average flaccid penis length increased to 10.5 cm
  • Average stretched penis length increased to 13.2 cm
• The circumference of the penis glans increased, on average 1.5 cm at month three.

Penis Extender Effectiveness Study Conclusion

Given the small sample size, the researchers suggest further research. However, initial findings supported the efficacy of penis extenders in increasing penis length. Their results also suggested the possibility of glans girth enhancement using a penile extender.

Penis Extender Effectiveness Study Discussion

The key to penis extender effectiveness is wearing it consistently, for the proper amount of time. This is the primary reason men don’t get the results they want – not being able to spend 9 hours a day wearing an extender.

This is why we love the Phallosan Forte. It’s unique design makes it so comfortable and so discreet, you can wear it under regular clothing (even jeans!), and go about your day. It’s even so comfortable, many men sleep with it on!

CITATION:

Nikoobakht, M., Shahnazari, A., Rezaeidanesh, M., Mehrsai, A., & Pourmand, G. (2011). Effect of Penile‐Extender Device in Increasing Penile Size in Men with Shortened Penis: Preliminary Results. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 8(11), 3188-3192. doi:10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01662.x

PEGym is about complete improvement of male sexual health and male enhancement. We address concerns about:

• Erectile dysfunction
• Premature ejaculation
• Erection quality
• Sexual technique
• Overall health
• And more

However, the largest percentage of men come to PEGym looking for one thing…

A larger dick.

Now, I’ve said it numerous times on the forums – a larger dick doesn’t automatically make you a phenomenal lover. However, it can make certain sexual positions easier to get into. But, the most important reason any man should pursue penis enlargement is for themselves. To feel good about being in their own skin.

And, along that line, the psychological benefits of having a larger penis are often more important than the physical benefits.

When you feel good about how you look, you present a more confident persona to the world. It’s the reason why the beauty and fashion industries are two of the largest industries in the world. We like to look our best. And, although most of us don’t walk around naked all day, how we look under our clothes does affect our self-image.

This increased confidence is very attractive – to both men and women.

People like being around someone who is confident. It’s, in fact, one of the most desired traits in a man, from a potential mate.

But, in addition to the sexual attraction confidence creates, this extends to non-romantic relationships – including your professional relationships.

Job hunters who give off a confident air are more likely to get the job offer. Employees who exude confidence are more likely to make more money and get advancement opportunities.

Why is this? Because humans like confident people!

Think about it. If two men walk into the room. One has his head up, is smiling, shoulders back and the other won’t look you in the eye, head down and is stoop-shouldered, which guy are you most likely going to want to talk to first?

You know nothing else about these men. They could even be dressed completely alike – be identical twins even – but their demeanor, their level of confidence makes one naturally more attractive than the other.

When you feel good about yourself, this includes the physical aspects of yourself, including penis size, you’re going to feel more confident.

Here at PEGym we know that your overall health directly affects your sexual health. You can have the biggest, hardest penis in the world, but if you aren’t physically healthy, the quality of your sex life is going to be diminished. So, let’s take a minute to talk about a relatively newcomer to health scene…

Probiotics.

You’ve probably seen commercials for these digestive aids, but what are probiotics? Who should take probiotics? What do probiotics do?

What Are Probiotics?

Probiotics are the good bacteria that line your digestive tract and support your body’s ability to absorb nutrients and fight infection. There are actually 10 times more probiotics in your gut than cells in the rest of your body.

Your good bacteria is also responsible for a number of other benefits including:

• Producing Vitamin B-12, butyrate and Vitamin K2
• Crowding out bad bacteria, yeast and fungi
• Creating enzymes that destroy harmful bacteria
• Stimulating secretion of IgA and regulatory T cells

When there is an imbalance in your gut from low levels of good bacteria, it becomes a breeding ground for bad bacteria, yeast, viruses, fungi and parasites. The only way to replace the essential good bacteria in your body is to eliminate foods that feed bad bacteria and start consuming probiotic-rich foods. Some foods, such as yogurt, have probiotics naturally in them. However, many people find it difficult to consume enough of these types of probiotic-rich foods to correct the imbalance and maintain a healthy gut. For this reason, probiotic supplements are now available to help keep your digestive system working optimally.

Should I Take Probiotics?

A variety of people can benefit from taking probiotics. The ultimate goal of probiotic supplements is to increase the “good” bacteria in your body. Certain things can reduce this good bacteria – like taking antibiotics and stress. Those who have a hard time digesting lactose can also benefit from probiotics. Those with irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) can often also benefit from probiotics. When you have enough good bacteria in your body, than your body works the way it should. Some of the most common issues that can benefit from probiotics are:

• Irritable bowel syndrome
• Inflammatory bowel disease (IBD)
• Infectious diarrhea (caused by viruses, bacteria, or parasites)
• Antibiotic-related diarrhea
• Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
• Pollen-related allergies

Research also has shown probiotics can also help with:

• Maintaining healthy cholesterol levels
• Skin conditions, like eczema
• Urinary and vaginal health
• Preventing allergies and colds
• Oral health
• Cellular immunity

What are the Different Types of Probiotics?Lactobacillus is the most common probiotic. This type of probiotic is found naturally in yogurt and other fermented food, like kombucha. However, many people don’t consume enough of these foods (or simply don’t like the taste) to really improve their digestive health. There are several types of lactobacillus bacteria.

• Lactobacillus acidophilus can be found in the intestinal tract in the gut. Lactobacillus acidophilus may assist in maintaining healthy intestinal flora.
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• Lactobacillus plantarum is one of the most beneficial bacteria in your body. Lactobacillus plantarum is known for its suggested health benefits as a form of digestive support. It is also suggested to support healthy levels of cholesterol.
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• Lactobacillus Paracasei is known for its suggested benefits in helping reduce the adverse effects of diarrhea in infants. It is also suggested to help reduce pollen related allergies and some have even had some reported benefits relating to the relief of symptoms of chronic fatigue syndrome.

Bifidobacterium lactis is known for its suggested benefits in stimulating the body’s immune response. Bifidobacterium lactis is also suggested to enhance cellular immunity in the elderly.

Saccharomyces boulardii is a yeast in probiotics that can also help fight diarrhea, plus help with other digestive issues.

Which Probiotic Should I Take?

There are an increasing number of probiotics products out there. Our favorite is Probiotic 40-Billion. As the name suggests, there are 40 billion probiotic bacteria in every capsule. This includes:

• Lactobacillus acidophilus,
• Bifidobacterium lactis,
• Lactobacillus plantarum, and
• Lactobacillus Paracasei

Plus, right now, they have a buy 3, get 1 free offer going on. So, healthy gut PLUS saving money EQUALS a win, in my book!

NOTE: As always, if you have a medical concern, please see your doctor. Before taking any supplement, be sure to get approval from your doctor. As with all supplements, these are not evaluated by the United States Food and Drug Administration and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.

Although PEGym is penis-centric, if we’re going to improve men’s sexual lives, they really need to understand the penis  counterpart –

The vagina.

We first talked about the vagina in this article — A Little Bit About Female Anatomy: AKA How Big is the Vagina? This article continues that discussion, to help demystify this mysterious female body part.

Note (again): Every woman is unique, this holds true for her vagina. For this reason, we are talking about typical. Just as every man’s penis is unique. And, just as a the unique size and shape of a man’s penis shouldn’t affect their value as a partner or as a human being, the same holds true for those of us across the gender aisle.

What is the Vagina?

The vagina is the internal sex organ of the female. It begins at the vaginal opening and extends into the body, typically between three to five inches, and ends at the cervix.

The vagina is made up of three tissue layers:

• Mucosa – This is the layer on the surface that you can actually touch. It is comprised of mucous membranes that provide lubrication and is similar to the mouth’s lining. Although, unlike the smooth surface you find in the mouth, the vagina’s mucosa has wrinkles and folds.
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• Muscle – The muscle layer is the next layer. It’s concentrated mostly around the outer third of the vagina.
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• Fibrous Tissue – The innermost layer of the vagina is made of fibrous tissue. This connects the vagina to other anatomical structures.

What is the Shape of the Vagina?

When not sexually stimulated, the vagina is basically a flattened tube, with both sides collapsed upon each other. Contrary to popular belief, the vagina is NOT a continually open space, or even a hole. The muscles of the vagina allow this tube to expand – like a balloon – allowing it to accommodate a wide range of size – from the narrowness of a tampon to the significantly larger circumference of a newborn’s head.

The outer shape of a woman’s pubic area can vary widely too. There is no one “perfect” vagina shape. The outer (labia majora) and inner (labia minora) position and shape are as diverse as the size and shape of women’s breasts or men’s penises.

How Sensitive is the Vagina?

This is probably one of the most common questions we get about vaginas — What does it feel like for a woman?

Interestingly, the vagina itself isn’t super-sensitive. This is the reason many women only orgasm from clitoral stimulation – where there are approximately 8,000 nerve endings in the very small nub of tissue! 90 percent of the vaginal nerves are actually located in the first one-third of the vagina. That’s why this first approximate inch to inch and a half is much more sensitive than deeper into the vagina.

How Does a Vagina Get Wet?

When sexually excited, fluid appears along the mucosa of the vagina. There are no secretory glands in the vagina. Instead, when aroused, the blood vessels of the vagina become engorged. These press against the mucosa tissue, which then force these natural fluids out the walls of the vagina. This lubrication is typically a preparation for intercourse, as sex can be uncomfortable – and even painful – without it for a woman.

Why Wouldn’t a Woman Get Wet?

The most common reason for too little vaginal lubrication is simply not being sexually aroused enough. Foreplay is so critical for many women. This doesn’t always mean touching traditional sexual areas. Kissing, and the hormonal exchange that happens when this happens, is often a good method of sexual stimulation. Other reasons why a woman may have trouble getting aroused include:

• Emotional issues –
  • Unhappiness in the relationship,
  • Stress,
  • Anxiety,
  • Depression
• Hormonal deficiency
• Infection
• Cyst
• Use of birth control pills that are high in progesterone

Vaginal lubrication often decreases as women age, due to the change in hormones. This is especially true after menopause, when the vaginal walls thin. After menopause, the vagina also often becomes slightly shorter and narrower and it can take longer for a post-menopausal woman to become aroused enough to produce adequate lubrication.

If not on estrogen replacement, artificial lubricants can be especially useful.

Art, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Well, the latest giant penis mural definitely gives passerbys an eyeful!

Swedish artist, Carolina Falkholt, is becoming increasingly well-known, now with her second ginormous penis mural.

Her first one, a big, pink creation. Was was commissioned by local street art organisation The New Allen. The giant penis was intended as a complement to a nearby super-sized mural of a vagina on Pike Street.

“I usually paint giant vaginas, pussies and cunts,” Falkholt told The Guardian. “And since I had just finished one on the side of a five-story building, I felt like a dick was needed.”  Falkholt says the space on Broome Street was a “perfect fit” for the penis painting. “To paraphrase Judith Bernstein, if a dick can go into a woman, it can go up on a wall,” she added.

However, a few days later, after complaints from locals, the pink masterpiece was painted over.

Now, it looks like Stockholm has it’s blue counterpart.

This time the five-storey-high turgid penis is bright blue and painted on the side of a building in Kungsholmen island, Stockholm, Sweden.

The translation of what Falkholt has entitled it is literally – “Fuck the World”.

Let’s see how long this one lasts. Hopefully, it’ll be up a lot longer than the first one. (Pun intended.)

PEGym has been helping men reach their penis enlargement goals for more than a decade. Over those years, there are definitely questions we get over and over. We understand how confusing male enhancement can be, when you’re first starting out. So, let’s take a look at some of our most common penis enlargement questions!

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Question 1: Does Penis Enlargement Really Work?

Does penis enlargement really work? – is probably the most common question we get via e-mail, PM and on the forums. It’s not surprising, given the skepticism about the male enhancement industry, as well as the snake oil salesmen out there just looking to make a buck off of guys who want nothing more than improve themselves and their sex lives.

The short answer to this question is —

Yes, penis enlargement really works.

You can check out our Success Forum to read accounts from thousands of members

who have achieved success.

However, like any exercise program, there are definitely components needed to get the results you want. These include:

• Consistency
• A proper penis enlargement program
• Proper frequency and intensity
• Time

Hard Flaccid… it’s an oxymoron, right? Like “jumbo shrimp” or “deafening silence”. However, hard flaccid is a condition so many men are worried about. So…

What is hard flaccid?

and, perhaps more importantly,

How do I cure hard flaccid?

What is Hard Flaccid?

Normally, when a man is in the flaccid state, his penile tissue is relaxed. It feels soft and spongy. With a hard flaccid penis, as the name implies, the penis is hard, but, unlike an erection is typically smaller than the normal flaccid state. Big Al, lead trainer of MaleEnhancementCoach.com describes it as:

(Hard flaccid is) as if the smooth muscle contracts (relaxes) so hard that it collapses in upon itself. Picture what happens to a soft sponge when you dry out all of the moisture out of it and compress it as tightly as possible. That’ll give you a picture of how that works.

In addition to this harder flaccid state, symptoms can include:

• Mild turtling of the penis
• Loss of morning erection
• Difficulty achieving or maintaining erections
• Reduced erection angle
• Difficulty urinating which may or may not be painful and may include a weaker urine flow
• Pain or ache, at the base of the penis, after ejaculation
• Occasionally sharp pain in the perineum
• Slight numbness of the penis

What Causes Hard Flaccid?

Your hard flaccid condition could be caused by a variety of things. The most important thing to remember is that if the symptoms persist, it’s always smart to talk to a medical professional. Most commonly, a hard flaccid state is a negative physiologic indicator due to:

• Traumatic injury
• Nerve damage
• Pelvic floor tightness, and/or
• Overtraining.

Additionally, hard flaccid can be caused by a hormonal imbalance, specifically estrogen dominance.

How Do I Cure Hard Flaccid?

Long-time member,  aBone2pick, has some advice I just absolutely LOVE…

The very first thing I want to say is this: regardless of whether your potential hard flaccid disappears overnight or after a long period of time, it’s really not that terrible. I want you to change the way you think about hard flaccid from, “I just got cancer,” to “I have an annoying, perpetual runny nose.” Hard flaccid is extremely annoying, sometimes mildly painful, and a bit damaging to one’s self esteem, however it’s not going to ruin your sex life.

This is so true! In fact, becoming anxious about your hard flaccid (or perceived hard flaccid) state can actually make the condition worse. So, Step 1 – Relax!

Many times, with rest and recovery, hard flaccid conditions resolve themselves. The body heals and the hard flaccid condition stops. This not only includes stopping any penis exercises, but also masturbation and sexual intercourse.

Meditation and yoga have been known to help, as it relaxes the muscles. Swimming laps is an excellent exercise to not only promote blood flow around the entire body, including the penis, but also can be very relaxing and meditative.

If your hard flaccid is due to a hormonal imbalance, look first to your diet. If your diet is high in soy-based products – this includes soy-based protein drinks and bars – cut out all soy from your diet.  Soybeans have phytoestrogens. These mimic the body’s estrogen hormones. For guys, this can throw your testosterone out of balance, and lead to an estrogen dominance in males.

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about supplements for erection quality, advanced training and stop & starts, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions answered.

Q. I want to start training and using your coaching service soon…

…but I want to focus on improving my erection quality first.  Are there any supplements I should look into for hardness?

Big Al:  Herbs like Maca and Yohimbe are good, but the latter is powerful and can have negative effects on those with high blood pressure.  L-Arginine is beneficent, and if you’re into intense resistance training and are supplementing for that, then L-Arginine/creating mixes will have a definite effect. Unless you really need the boost, I do recommend spending the first couple of weeks supplement free so as to establish a control period to evaluate from.

Q. I’ve been training on and off for a few months and now want to get more serious about my workouts and gains!…

…I was looking at your Basic Training routine but it looks pretty easy.  Is there another routine you suggest which will be more challenging?

Big Al:  If you’re able to perform over 100 reps of the jelq, then I recommend you get started on a more advanced routine- like the Jelq Free or the JP90.  Both of these don’t have the upper level volume limitations recommended in the Basic Training routine.

Q. The Stop and Starts looks like a good exercise…

…but I can only last 2-3 minutes before I pop off. Do I just stay with that exercise or is there something else I can do?

Big Al:  If you last less than 5 minutes with the standard version you can attempt the “Extreme” Stop and Starts.  This is where you perform up to 10 “stops” in order to get that very necessary temporal conditioning.  Once you can get to 10-15 minutes in this fashion, you can stay at that time but just begin cutting the stops down to 3, over time.

We have a very special post today, from one of our amazing moderators, HansTwilight.  HansTwilight talks today about the dangers of excessive Kegeling.  Derived from his own personal (and painful) experience, he gives us unique insight into what can happen when you get too much of a good thing.

“Kegels, Kegels, and more Kegels!”

This appears to be the primary advice given by guides on the internet instructing men on improving their erections, stamina, and ejaculation force.  Although these claims are true, this advice is very vague and totally irresponsible.

As with all male enhancement exercises, whether it’s weightlifting, cardio, penis enlargement exercises, there is always a risk of injury associated with them, especially doing simple Kegels exercises.   This article hopes to point out the risks associated with the abuse of Kegel exercises and how to avoid falling victim to some of the horror stories men have posted after having abused such exercises.  I will also mention some of the treatment options for these conditions as well.  Note that I am not a doctor, and I always recommend seeing a licensed physician to get a proper assessment.

I will first begin by establishing the common conditions that appear from abusing the Kegel, they are as listed:

• Pelvic Floor Dysfunction (PFD)
• Chronic Prostatitis/Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome (CP/CPPS)
• Levator Ani Syndrome
• Hard Flaccid (HF)

Some of these are conditions you have probably never heard of, which is what makes things more complicated for men who see their doctors and are unsatisfied when the doctor sees no issues.  That is because most of these conditions are not acknowledged by all medical communities, especially if the patient is living in a 3rd world country.  It is my hope that these types of conditions will become more mainstream within the next decade or so.

“So Hans, what are these conditions and how do they occur?”

The first three conditions on the list are all caused by doing too many Kegel exercises.  The last one (hard flaccid) is one that has many different possible causes, from stimulant use to severe anxiety, but they all involve the pelvic region.

The ideology behind the pelvic floor muscles is although they are skeletal muscles, they are still different because they never stop working. If they did, we would be incontinent.  Because of this, I hypothesize they are, for lack of a better word, naive; they can be trained very easily.  That being said, it’s paramount to follow a Kegel routine that also involves reverse Kegels.  This allows the pelvic floor to maintain balance.

When the individual does too many Kegels, the pelvic floor can become overactive, tensing when it is not supposed to.  A lot of this tension occurs in response to stress, and the medical community is becoming more aware now that some men (and women) are holding their stress in the pelvic floor which is a huge factor in many PFD cases.

“Hans, what is your definition of hard flaccid?”

Good question. In my opinion, hard flaccid is a vague term describing a bodily function that is perfectly normal.  Exercising and weight lifting are common causes of hard flaccid.  The problem is when the hard flaccid doesn’t go away, “Chronic Hard Flaccid” (a term I coined) is where the penis becomes hyper contracted, making erections impossible.  A lot of people have their own way of defining it, but I think that the underlined sentence best describes what it is.  In my opinion, the most common cause of hard flaccid is repressed anxiety.

“So then how do I avoid these conditions from happening to me?”

The important thing to keep in mind when doing Kegels is that less is more.  You don’t need to do tons and tons of reps in order to strengthen the muscle, you need to focus on a high intensity/low volume routine.  I have instructions on an example routine in my protocol, pink section.

Another important thing to remember is that you should never Kegel while you are stretching your penis. This can cause the BC muscle to pull, and it can lead to full blown PFD and hard flaccid, at least it did for me. (Read: Tug of War Theory)

“What should I do if I have any of these conditions?”

First things first, relax.  Worrying will only worsen the condition, and anxiety will only make you more tense.  You need to see a doctor to rule out any other anomalies that might be present.  Next, you should speak with your doctor on pelvic floor physiotherapy.  The can be hard to find if you are not living in the US or UK, but there are websites you can use to find them.  Finally, seeing a mental health professional is also important.

The Bottom Line

Male enhancement is becoming more popular nowadays, but the risk is still present, and the potential for injuries is no different.  One must do their research and approach these exercises with caution in order to see success.  I strongly advise using the type of Kegel routine mentioned in my protocol and always implementing reverse Kegels, it could save you from having to deal with the same agonizing pain I dealt with.  It’s unfortunate that very few people are aware of these risks, but as the male enchantment field grows, the awareness of injury must as well.  I ask that these words be spread to everyone in this community, so we can ensure that men trying to improve their sexual health will be able to do so as safely as possible.

One of my favorite television shows of all times is Coupling.

The BBC, original version, not the horrible one-shot American copycat.

Anyway, when answering one of Ujjayi’s Questions of the Day about laughter, I immediately recalled the scene explaining what the Giggle Loop is – the horrible inability to not stop yourself from laughing, in a totally inappropriate setting. While trying to find this clip, to share, online I came across this one… The Terror of the Melty Man

“You’re in bed and suddenly you find yourself thinking… maybe she’s really bored.”

“Or maybe you’re licking her neck too much. Are you overwetting her neck?”

“Are you spending an equal amount of time on each breast?”

Oh, yes, this is when the Melty Man appears!

Although this clip is hilarious, it actually puts a point on a very real problem – the fact that sometimes erectile dysfunction isn’t physical at all — it’s all in your head!

Instead of worrying about these silly things, talk to your partner. More importantly, LISTEN to your partner – in and out of the bedroom.

Most importantly – don’t stress yourself out. Get out of your own head (which is where the Melty Man lives). Focus on your partner. The feel of their skin. The sound of their breathing. The smell of their body. Focus on giving them pleasure, don’t even think about your own erection, and you’ll find it much easier to keep the Melty Man at bay.

The Internet is a wonderful tool, when used properly. This is more true for medical quandaries than almost any other aspect, in my opinion. You get a weird rash – you can Google it, and even see photos of potentially similar rashes, to help you decide whether or not a visit to the doctor’s office is imminent or if you can try a home remedy or something over-the-counter first.

This is both pretty freaking cool and can be incredibly challenging.

There are numerous challenges, and even risks, to using the Internet to self-diagnose a medical concern. Today, we’re going to talk about the challenge of listening to others.

Our site, and our forums, never are intended as medical advice. I think this is also true for 99% off websites out there.  Obviously, only a trained medical professional who has physically examined you can make a final determination on your condition and a proper course of treatment.

However, as I mentioned in the intro, the Internet can help you determine the severity of your possible condition. Is it likely something that you can self-treat? Is it likely something that is temporary? Or is it something you need to get to the ER right now?

Yet, despite this plethora of information, and personal accounts of similar situations and what the general public has been through when they had similar situations and symptoms, it never fails to surprise me that so many people refuse to listen to what others are saying.

This is true not only for physical concerns, but for non-physical concerns where advice is requested – including relationship concerns.

Yes, it’s natural to have a situation present itself and for a person to have a preconceived notion about what the issue is and what the best course of action is. However, if you then present this situation to a group of your peers and ask for advice —  LISTEN.

Listen to what others say, even if their advice is diametrically-opposed to what your initial thoughts were. Listen even if what they’re saying isn’t what you want to hear.

Now, I’m not saying you need to accept what others give as advice as the truth of your situation. In fact, I STRONGLY suggest you take everything you read on the Internet with a heaping tablespoon of salt. And, in the end, you have to make your decision based on what YOU feel is best – because even though you’ve given details to the situation, you likely have more information than what you shared.

However, consider what others are saying and the advice they are giving. Especially if more than one person is expressing the same thought. Even if these people aren’t 100% right, they can help open your mind to new possibilities about what the correct action is for you and your unique situation.

Otherwise – what was the point of asking for advice? If you simply wanted people to reaffirm your preconceived notion – well, that might not always happen. And, the reason for that is twofold:

1. You didn’t give all of the pertinent details that would change the general populace’s opinion on the best course of action, or
2. You’re wrong in your preconceived notion.

So, before you ask for advice, whether that be here on the PEGym forums, or even in person to family and friends, ask yourself —

• Am I only wanting to hear opinions that agree with what I already think?
• Will I ignore advice that is contrary to my preconceived notion?
• Have I left out details to the situation that possibly have had an effect on the situation (such as events leading up to symptoms of a physical problem or events that have impacted an emotional relationship)?

If you’ve answered YES to any of these questions, chances are you’re not in a position to really accept advice from others.

Again – as always – in instances of physical problems – talk to a medical professional. It’s always better to err on the side of caution and have an issue be nothing serious than have it be serious and become worse because you didn’t receive timely care.