Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers a question about low self-esteem and penis size, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions answered.

Q.  Ever since I was young I’ve had low self esteem…

…Even though according to PEGym my penis is longer than average I still see myself as inadequate and have even rejected opportunities for sex because of fear.  I used to be able to bring myself to go on dates I now can’t even do that anymore!  It’s gotten to the point where even my male enhancement training is being affected!  What can I do?!

Big Al:  It’s unfortunate, but your complaint is an increasingly common one. Not coincidentally, this time of year (the Holidays) is when these types of complaints seem to pick up.

If the nature of your complaint is manageable then self-introspection along with emotional visualization exercises should be of benefit.  An interesting exercise you can perform is to visualize yourself going back in time and confronting your younger self during moments where you felt the greatest shame.  Instead of visualizing your past self with loathing, switch gears toward compassion with firm guidance.  This wouldn’t be much different from the type of guidance you might give your future children under the same situation.  This combination of compassion with firm guidance should also apply when you’re tempted to retreat into current phases of self-loathing, since the worst thing you can do is to dwell on and allow those negative feelings to take over.

To add, avoid indulging in negative behaviors- like reading or engaging in “fear porn” type activities.  Do your best to focus your attention on positive activities.  To add, associate yourself with positive individuals. Relying on a trusted loved one can be very helpful in times of emotional crisis.

As mentioned before, the above advice is for MANAGEABLE emotional issues. If you aren’t able to manage your emotional issues (especially if you’re contemplating suicide) you should seek immediate qualified medical attention.

KIMBERLY’S NOTE: 

Body dysmorphia (obsession with a perceived body flaw) is a very common problem, so first know that you’re not alone. Even though, as you mentioned, you logically know you are larger than average, your heart doesn’t let you believe it.

This can be absolutely debilitating.

As you’ve stated, it’s even preventing you from dating – finding love – being happy.

With this much of an effect on your life, I would strongly suggest talking with a mental health professional. They can help you with exercises to overcome these insecurities and make you comfortable in your own skin. This is rarely something you can overcome on your own.

As Big Al mentioned, if at anytime this becomes overwhelming to you and even the thought of self-harm, at any level, comes into your mind – please, please, PLEASE seek help immediately.

1-800-273-8255

The above number is available 24/7 and is 100% confidential.

You can get through this. You can be happy. I know it might not seem like it right now.

*Hugs*

Santa has informed me most of you are on the Nice List this year!

As such, I’ve been instructed to give away 12 presents!

Here’s how it will work:

1. Starting today – DECEMBER 8th, for 12 days, I will post a holiday-related question here in this thread – 12 Days of Christmas Giveaway Thread.
2. You’ll have (approximately) 24 hours to post your answer to the question.
3. One winner will be chosen, randomly, from all responses for that day’s question.
4. Prizes for each day will be chosen randomly from Santa’s Bag
5. The winner will be announced on the thread and must PM me their mailing address, to receive their present.

I just peeked into Santa’s bag and… a BIG thank you to our sponsors for donating their prizes! Prizes are courtesy of:

• Bathpump.com
• Phalloextender.com
• meCoach
• Isagenix
• Male Edge Extenders
• Andropenis

Wow! You guys must’ve been very good this year, because there are some nice prizes in that bag!!

Keep watching on this thread (SUBSCRIBE SO YOU DON’T MISS A DAY!) for the question of the day! Day 1 is up NOW!!

Merry Christmas!

Whenever you have a difficult goal you’d like to reach, to ensure success you likely take certain steps. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for penis enlargement or weight loss or quitting smoking or some other difficult life change. There are steps you should take, to help you improve the chance you’ll reach your goal.

You quantify what that goal is. You make an action plan of what you’re going to do to get there. You likely even have smaller goals set, to help you keep motivated along the way.

Then something happens.

Life gets in the way. You get busy. You screw up.

All those plans – all that hard work – wasted.

You’ve failed.

Or have you?

You haven’t!

Progress not perfection.

That’s what you have to keep reminding yourself. Progress not perfection.

You don’t fail until you stop trying. So, get some perspective. We’re all human. We all make mistakes. And, we all have things get in the way of reaching our success. The trick is — the people who eventually succeed are those that never give up!

I’m going to give a weight loss example from a member using Isagenix, because I think it’s something a lot of people can relate to. They’ve been doing well the first week. They even lost six pounds! But, on Saturday night, they had a company Christmas party and kind of went off the rails. Monday I received a PM about how they failed.

No! This member didn’t fail!

Two steps forward, one step backward is still one step forward!

Sure, maybe they made some bad choices at the party. And, maybe they gained back some of the weight they had lost, BUT they still are ahead of the game! And, as long as they keep moving forward – making progress – they definitely haven’t failed!

Progress, not perfection.

So, whatever your goals – whatever actions you need to take to get to those goals – keep trying! Don’t give up. Most importantly, don’t beat yourself up if you screw up.

If you miss a day or two of your male enhancement routine – that’s OK! Get back on track! If you don’t wear your extender or don’t pump as often as you had planned – that’s OK! Just get back to it!

Keep moving forward, even if you slip backward a little, still climb! You’ll get to the top, if you don’t give up!

You can do it!

You have penis enlargement goals you want to reach, have done the research, and decided you want to get to your goal as quickly as possible. With that in mind, you decide you’re definitely going to buy some sort of penis enlargement device and have it narrowed down to two choices — penis extender or penis hanger. But, which is better for penis enlargement?

If you look at our forums, you’ll see lots of guys have used both penis extending and penis hanging to get the results they want. And, much like Apple versus Droid phones, you find guys who are devout fanatics on both sides of the issue. Keep reading to here about the pros and cons of each device, so you can make your own, educated decision about which device is going to be right for you.

Penis Hanger Pros for Penis Enlargement

• Penis Hanger Pro #1 – Hangers are usually less expensive than penis extenders.
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• Penis Hanger Pro #2 – Penis hangers allow you to really customize the amount of tension you have on your penis, from fraction of an ounce to pounds.
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• Penis Hanger Pro #3 – Penis hangers are an effective means to get the penis enlargement results you want, especially increases in length, when used consistently and correctly, over a period of time.
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• Penis Hanger Pro #4 –You can change the angle of your hang, more easily than with an extender.

Penis Hanger Cons for Penis Enlargement

• Penis Hanger Con #1 – Hanging is definitely best-suited for seasoned PEers, because of the amount of force on the penis.
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• Penis Hanger Con #2 – Because there really is no limit to the amount of weight that you can hang, there is a greater chance for injury, especially for men who try to hang too much weight too quickly.
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• Penis Hanger Con #3 – Most penis hangers require uninterrupted, private hanging time.
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• Penis Hanger Con #4 – There’s a challenge with “turkey neck”, especially with uncircumcized men.

Penis Extender Pros for Penis Enlargement

• Penis Extender Pro #1 – Penis extenders are a medically (published in scholarly, scientific journals) proven means of penis enlargement, especially increasing penis length.
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• Penis Extender Pro #2 – Most penis extenders have been designed for increased comfort – such as the SizeGenetics and the Phallosan Forte.
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• Penis Extender Pro #3 – Some penis extenders have such a discreet design, they can be worn under normal, everyday clothing, while you go about your day – like the Phallosan Forte.
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• Penis Extender Pro #4 –  Because there is a limit to the amount of tension an extender will place on your penis, they are relatively safer than penis hanging.

Penis Extender Cons for Penis Enlargement

• Penis Extender Con #1 – Because of their more intricate design, penis extenders are usually more expensive, although some, like the Quick Extender Pro, are very affordable.
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• Penis Extender Con #2 – There is a limit to the amount of tension an extender can give, dependent on the design. While this makes them safer, it does require more time for hanging to achieve the same results.
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• Penis Extender Con #3 – Penis extenders must be worn for hours at a time, to be effective in creating the microtears in the cells, to facilitate new, real tissue growth. However, because of the increased comfort of higher-end models, many men wear their penis extender while they conduct normal, daily activities and/or sleep.

Do you have a preference – penis hanger over penis extender? What do you think the pros/cons of your preferred device are? Tell us in the comments below!!

The commando versus skivvies debate has probably been going on since the invention of underwear.

Those who like their bits and bobble loose and wild, swear going au naturel is the best! Others, who prefer to have their man parts supported and contained, think its barbaric to go about your day free willying it.

However, as a pseudo-public service announcement, let me state my opinion…

Men should definitely wear underwear… at least when running a marathon.

Let Josef Urban’s experience, forever immortalized on the Internet, be a cautionary tale…

Despite finishing an impressive tenth, in the Košice Peace Marathon in Slovakia on October 1st, 2017, the world will likely only remember his privates bouncing joyfully along as he finished this 26+ mile race.

Underwear could’ve prevented this tragedy.

If you’ve been perusing PEGym for any length of time, you’ve likely seen someone mention Bathmate. With that, maybe you’ve even noticed the term “hydropump”.  But, what is a hydropump? And, does it really make the Bathmate that special?

Penis Pumps: An Overview

Penis pumps have been around for several decades. They work on the basic principle of suction. By creating a vacuum, in a cylinder where the penis placed, the suction expands the tissue of the penis.

It’s actually a very effective means of penis enlargement, for both length and girth, because as long as the cylinder is sized properly, you don’t just get force along the length of your penis, like a penis extender or penis hanging or most manual penis exercises, but you also get force around the entire diameter of the penis. As the girth of the penis is sucked outward, you get expansion in all directions. Plus, the vacuum actually sucks blood into the penis, engorging it to a point that most men do not get naturally.

Talk about a rock hard erection!

So, What’s So Special About Bathmate?

Bathmate is a hydropump. Instead of sucking the air surrounding the penis in the cylinder out, like a traditional pump. The Bathmate uses water instead of air to create the vacuum force.

There are multiple advantages:

• With water, the force created is more uniform around the penis. This means that all veins around the penis are equally stimulated.
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• The hydro-vacuum technology uses warm water. By using warm water, all dirt, oils, dead skin cells, etc. that have accumulated on your skin since your last bath is washed away. This opens up the pores, allowing the skin to breathe. Healthier skin means that it lends itself to being stretched more without breaking – a necessity. You don’t want your erect penis is to be restricted by how much the skin can be elongated.
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• The hydro-vacuum technology is safer. The chances of injury to your penile member are brought down considerably.

This technology, which Bathmate revolutionized ten years ago, is the most effective penis pump on the market today. It’s not surprising that it’s the number one penis pump used here on PEGym, by members looking for increases in penis length, penis girth, as well as improvement in erection quality.

Anyone who says penis enlargement is a scam needs to talk to Roberto Esquivel Cabrera. Cabrera, a 54-year-old from northern Mexico, has stretched his penis to a startling 18.9 inches in length. It is now thought to be the world’s largest penis.

However, Cabrera is also a cautionary tale of taking a good idea and going way too far.

Cabrera said, “I cannot wear a uniform like anybody in the companies and also I cannot get on my knees. I cannot run fast and so the companies think badly of me. They say that they will call me, but they never do.”

Due to his debilitating penis size, the Mexican government has registered him as disabled. He now lives off of government handouts.

Cabera has been however offered work in the adult entertainment industry. He’s been offered to come to a porn studio in Prague to film a medical scene, though apparently it would be more comical than erotic.

Medical professionals have encouraged Cabrera to have a penis reduction. However, he refuses, despite the issues he has. “He’d rather have a penis bigger than the rest of the people,” Dr Jesus David Salazar Gonzalez said. “In Latin culture whoever has the bigger penis is more macho. It’s something that makes him different to the rest of the people and makes him feels special.”

Mr Cabera notes, “I am famous because I have the biggest penis in the world. I am happy with my penis, I know nobody has the size I have.”

The sheer size of Mr Cabrera’s penis causes him a number of health problems, including frequent urinary tract infections because not all his urine escapes his lengthy foreskin.

While he keeps his colossal member wrapped in bandages to escape chaffing. He is also unable to sleep chest down and has to put his penis on its own pillow to escape discomfort during the night.

And an active sex life is off limits for him as his penis has too much girth to have intercourse Mr Cabrera stated, “Some people ask me if I put some condoms on it and the answer is: I cannot. I can never penetrate anyone because it is too thick.”

Interestingly, the Guinness Book of World Records doesn’t recognize Cabrera as the record holder. They insist that Cabera’s penis actually only extends about 7 inches, and the rest is foreskin. Hmmm… that’s a lot of foreskin! They insist the world record holder is still US actor Jonah Falcon, whose penis was measured at 9.5 inches flaccid and 13.5 inches when erect.

We’d like to take a moment to wish everyone a very, merry Christmas!

May your holiday be filled with peace, love and happiness.

PEGym.com

8 things you might not now about your penis… and other strange penile-related facts.

1. Use it or Lose it – Your penis needs to be exercised regularly to maintain not only healthy tone of the smooth muscle, but also to ensure the penile tissue regularly receives enriched, oxygenated blood. For healthy men, your penis will get erect during the night, to help ensure it gets the blood it needs. However, men with blood vessel damage or nerve damage, such as caused by trauma or diabetes, can have issues with getting regularly erections, which can cause the penis to actually atrophy. Use of a vacuum pump, like the Bathmate, can help even men with issues get healthy erections.
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2. Monkey Testicles Were Used to Cure Impotence – In the 1920s, medical experimentation tried to attack the problem of impotence, through xenotransplantation. Testicles from goats, baboons and chimpanzees were implanted into male humans. Needless to say, it didn’t work.
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3. Most Men are Growers –  Approximately 12% of men are “showers” – men who gain less than 1/3 of their flaccid length when going from flaccid to erect.  The remaining 88% are growers – with their erect length more than 1/3 greater than their flaccid length. In fact, 7% actually double in length from flaccid to erect.
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4. Your Penis Becomes Less Sensitive With Age – Although studies vary on results, most agree from age 25 on, sensitivity starts to decline. The sharpest decline in sensitivity is seen between age 65 and 75. Although most men don’t recognize this decreased sensitivity, it is seen in the reduced ability to get an erection as well as increased difficulty in having an orgasm.
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5. Vibrators Work on Penises Too – Vibrators aren’t only for women. They work on the penis, too. In fact, vibration is so effective on the penis that often men with spinal cord injuries can ejaculate with the aid of a special medical vibrator. For this kind of treatment, the vibrator is usually held against the underside of the head of the penis. Although vibrators often help men with ejaculation problems, you don’t have to have any kind of medical condition to use one. You could do it just for fun.
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6. Most Men are Uncircumcised – Worldwide, approximately 30% of males aged 15 and older are circumcised, according to a 2007 report from the World Health Organization (WHO) and UNAIDS. Of course, this number is significantly greater in certain demographics, such as those of Jewish faith, where circumcision is a religious rite.
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7. Your Penis was Once a Clitoris –  Tom Hickman, author of God’s Doodle: The Life and Times of the Penis, explains, “Every penis in the womb starts as a clitoris before hormones ‘sex’ the brain of the to-be male.” The penis “retains the mark of its female heritage: its dark underskin and the thin ridge or seam, known as the raphe, which runs from scrotum to anus, are remnants of the fusion of the vaginal lips.”
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8. Larger Balls? More Likely to Cheat – One study found that men with large testicles are likely to be more unfaithful, the converse being true of men with small testicles.

The beginning of the New Year is the time for self-reflection and plans for self-improvement. You have an entire calendar of potential in front of you!

It’s actually pretty exciting!

With the New Year, you can create a New You!

And, these special discounts will help you get there!! Check them out now!

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Save $10 off our top-selling penis extender – the Phallosan Forte. This penis extender is so discreet and so comfortable, you can wear it all day long, under your normal clothes (even jeans!) and no one will know! That’s what makes the Phallosan so effective! You can actually wear it for the length of time needed to get real, permanent penis enlargement results.

Use promo code: NEWYEARNEWYOU

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10% Off Any Bathmate Bathpump or Accessory

Save 10% off any Bathmate penis pump or Bathmate accessory.  Increase your penis length, girth and get the hardest erections you’ve ever had in your life with the Bathmate! Plus, take 10% off their growing line of accessories – including vibrating cock rings, MaxOut jelqing serum, Pleasure Lube, Bathmate Trim Personal Groomer, and more!

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Beer and bacon may be God’s gifts to mankind, but memes are the Internet’s gifts to the easily amused… AKA me.

I thought it would be a great way to start off the New Year with a little amusing education!

Big shout out to WTFFunFact.com for the amusement factor!

Enjoy!

Stealth for Men Innerwear is a 3-in-1 bulge enhancer, anti-turtling device and penis extender. It’s not a surprise that Stealth is quickly becoming one of the favorite devices on PEGym! Plus, with 99 size combinations, you are guaranteed to get a Stealth Innerwear that fits you perfectly. Keep reading to learn how to measure yourself, for your Stealth for Men Innerwear.

STEP 1: MEASURE LENGTH

To measure length: In the flaccid (soft) condition, clamp your penis head using your thumb and finger. Fully extend your penis to a comfortable stretch. Lightly press the ruler slightly (1/2″ only) into the fat pad towards the pubic bone. Measure along your shaft without including your penis head.

STEP 2: MEASURE GIRTH

To measure girth: Once again, fully extend your penis to a comfortable stretch. Use a measuring tape to measure the circumference of your shaft right behind the penis head. If you do not have a measuring tape, wrap a strip of paper behind your penis head. Mark the strip of paper and then measure the distance on a ruler.

STEP 3: ENTER YOUR MEASUREMENTS IN THE STEALTH CALCULATOR

After you’ve measured yourself and double-checked for accuracy, enter your length and girth into the drop-down menus of the Stealth for Men calculator. Their calculator will automatically choose the most suitable size for you. The size code will be shown in the display box for your reference.

It’s that easy! And, they’ve even created a video, just in case you’re not sure you’re measuring properly..

Just one more day to save on 3 of our top-selling male enhancement devices!

Hurry and take advantage of these special savings before they end:

January 6th!

$10 Off Phallosan Forte

Save $10 off our top-selling penis extender – the Phallosan Forte. This penis extender is so discreet and so comfortable, you can wear it all day long, under your normal clothes (even jeans!) and no one will know! That’s what makes the Phallosan so effective! You can actually wear it for the length of time needed to get real, permanent penis enlargement results.

Use promo code: NEWYEARNEWYOU

Sale ends January 6th, 2018.

10% Off Any Bathmate Bathpump or Accessory

Save 10% off any Bathmate penis pump or Bathmate accessory.  Increase your penis length, girth and get the hardest erections you’ve ever had in your life with the Bathmate! Plus, take 10% off their growing line of accessories – including vibrating cock rings, MaxOut jelqing serum, Pleasure Lube, Bathmate Trim Personal Groomer, and more!

Use promo code: NEWYEAR10

Sale ends January 6th, 2018

15% Off Stealth for Men Innerwear & Corkscrew

Save 15% off the innovative Stealth for Men Innerwear and/or Corkscrew. Get immediate bulge improvement, anti-turtling and penis enlargement! The Stealth Innerwear is the ultimate 3-in-1 bulge enhancer, extension trainer and anti-turtling device.

Use promo code: NEW15

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Male enhancement isn’t just about maximizing the functionality of your penis, but also the aesthetics of it. Like other parts of our body, men want their dicks to look as pleasing as possible.

Enter a new (and dangerous) fad — penis whitening.

Currently popular in Thailand, we’ve had a few posts about it, in the recent year, on our forums. So, it won’t surprise me when this trend starts affecting men around the globe. However, as noted above, this cosmetic procedure can actually be quite dangerous.

Thailand’s public health ministry has issued a warning over a new and bizarre trend of penis whitening, which has been linked to the country’s association of paleness with success.  Skin whitening is popular across south east Asia, as darker skin is associated with outdoor, manual labor and being poorer, with a wide range of bleaching products on the market.

In Thailand the phallic fad has unexpectedly extended to men who believe a paler penis and groin area looks more attractive. But health officials have urged people to rethink undergoing the procedure, which can lead to scarring, inflammation, infection, and “nasty looking spots.”

“Penis laser whitening is not necessary, wastes money and may give more negative effects than positive ones,” the health ministry’s Dr Thongchai Keeratihuttayakorn said in a statement.

The warning was issued after video footage of a clinic carrying out the unusual procedure went viral online. Laser bleaching of private areas is carried out by using a type of laser which damages or kills the cells that produce melanin – the pigment that gives skin its color.

It’s a new year and you have almost an entire calendar of new opportunities in front of you! Whether your New Year’s Resolutions involve losing weight, saving more money, quitting smoking, or whatever, the one thing most of us would love in 2018 is…

MORE HAPPINESS!

Increased happiness has a positive impact on not only your personal and professional relationships, but also your health! And, the good news – you’re in control of your happiness! As the old adage goes –

The only person who can make you happy is yourself.

So, let’s take a look at some of the ways you can be happier in 2018 and make this year the best one yet!

1. Challenge Negative Thinking – We all have negative thoughts occasionally. The trick is to recognize these negative thoughts – acknowledge them – then ask yourself challenging questions about the thought, to get a more realistic perspective on the situation – then take positive actions. EXAMPLE: Despite a goal to lose weight, you put off going to the gym all week, and ate a pint of ice cream for breakfast. Negative thought – I have no willpower, and I’ll never lose weight. Acknowledge that this is a negative thought and not necessarily true. Ask yourself Is this really true? Do I really have NO willpower? Then think about it – No, you’ve had willpower in the past. In fact, maybe you lost some weight in the past, proving you CAN do it. Now, take actions to correct the issue that is causing the negative thinking. Get up and go to the gym. Start tracking your food. Have a healthy lunch and dinner. Most importantly – when you take those positive actions, pat yourself mentally on the back! Remind yourself – See! I CAN do it, when I put my mind to it!
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2. Get Moving – Even if it’s just a 30-minute easy stroll in the evening after dinner – take some time to go out and do something every, single day. Studies have shown people are happier when they are up and moving around than when they’re simply sitting or lying down. PLUS, you get the added happy bonus of getting in sunshine (proven to improve mood)!
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3. Start Your Day with Positive Affirmations – The SNL skit of Stuart Smalley and his, “I’m good enough; I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me!” was funny – BUT has a lot of merit! When you get up in the morning, head to the bathroom and look yourself in the eye in the mirror. Tell yourself 3 positive things about yourself. You’ve now started your day off on a positive note! Now, list 3 things in your life you’re grateful for, and you’ve started your day with positivity AND gratitude!
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4. Volunteer – There is nothing better to remind yourself how blessed you are than by helping those less fortunate. There are so many opportunities to volunteer – there truly is something for everyone! From delivering meals for Meals on Wheels, driving patients to doctor appointments for the American Cancer Society, helping out with Special Olympics, being a patient advocate for a local abuse shelter, assisting with a local animal rescue, serving meals at a homeless shelter, and SO MUCH MORE! Not only will volunteering help you realize the blessings you have in your life, but you’ll also be helping others in need! Win-Win!
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5. Nourish Your Body & Get Sleep – If you want to be happier – start eating better. High carbohydrate (especially junk food and fast food) lead to blood sugar spikes and the inevitable crashes, which can cause you to be “hangry.” Start adding more lean protein into your diet, skip the bread and potatoes, and fill half your plate with veggies and fruit at mealtime.  Plus, make sure you’re getting a good night’s sleep – going to bed just a 1/2-hour earlier can make a world of difference the next morning on your  mood!
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6. Let it Go – Anger – Like Elsa on Frozen – let it go, when it comes to anger. If you find yourself becoming irritated by little things, take a moment and ask yourself, “Is this really worth getting upset about? Is my anger/irritation going to change the situation?” If the answer is no – LET IT GO! Remove yourself from the situation. Take a break and do something else until you no longer feel angry.
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7. Be Happy with Good Enough – Satisficers (yes, satisficers) make a decision once their criteria are met. When they find the hotel or the pasta sauce that has the qualities they want, they’re satisfied. Maximizers want to make the best possible decision. Even if they see a bicycle or a backpack that meets their requirements, they can’t make a decision until they’ve examined every option. Satisficers tend to be happier than maximizers. Maximizers expend more time and energy reaching decisions, and they’re often anxious about their choices. Sometimes good enough is good enough.

Here’s wishing you the HAPPIEST 2018!

Dear Fellow Femalekind,

Please, for not only the sake of the general male populace’s psyche, but for our happiness as well, stop talking about your partner’s penis size.

Don’t call it “cute.”

Don’t compare it to other penises you’ve had in the past or seen in porn.

Definitely, in the heat of anger, don’t think a derogatory remark on his size is an appropriate insult to sling.

It’s not nice. It’s not helpful. And, we all pay for it, in the long run.

Forget cyber-bullying – penis size comments have done more harm then all the snarky, mean girl Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat posts combined!

I’ve been a part of the PEGym family for more than 7 years now, and at first, I thought snide “small dick” comments were only made rarely. That, sure, there were bitchy, immature girls out there who callously told their partner about a HUGE ex or that they blatantly wish their BFs dick was bigger — but they were few and far between, right? I mean, why would you try to make someone you care about feel bad?

Sadly, my years of talking to tens of thousands of members has realized one truth — these kinds of comments happen quite frequently. And, the result is often the same — a guy doubting his self-worth, with increased physical insecurities, as some girl has just taken a swipe at the most personal part of him – his penis.

So, what harm can these comments really do? Shouldn’t men be a little less sensitive? Sticks and stones and all of that?

The reality is a guy can’t unhear a comment that even implies that his penis is less-than-desirable. Not only, as I mentioned before, does it negatively affect his self-image, but this self-doubt affects every aspect of his life. Romantic relationships suffer. If he’s in one with the girl who has made the comment, he worries that he’s not enough man for her and that she’s unhappy and is going to leave him. This hurt and insecurity often leads to jealousy and anger. It’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship.

Even if she apologizes and tries to reassure him that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with his manhood, he’ll always remember the hurtful comment.

You can’t unring that bell.

This insecurity can even negatively affect other personal and professional relationships.

Ladies, think of it this way. Would you want your partner to say something negative about your breast size? Maybe comment that his ex had nicer, perkier breasts? How would it feel if he said he thought your labia were a little long and floppy? Or that he really prefers a tighter vagina? What about even a simple comment about your weight – that his ex had abs he could bounce a quarter off of – or the perfect ass?

Obviously, we don’t want our partner to talk about how they like something on their ex more than on us. Even in the heat of the moment, or after a bad breakup, we don’t want them going to their buddies to say our ass was riddled with cellulite or we gave crappy blow jobs or our boobs were saggy.

Let’s use the Golden Rule when it comes to talking about men’s penises.

“But, Kimberly,” you say. “What if my partner asks me about his size or sizes of my exes? What do I do?!?”

First – MEN: STOP DOING THIS!!!!! Seriously – STOP! It’s like a woman asking you, “Does this dress make me look fat?” Or, “Do you think she’s pretty?” It’s a loaded question.

Second – Answer with this, “I’ve never paid attention to size. All I know is you rock my world, baby!!”

So, please, ladies – let’s make 2018 a kinder, happier year by making a vow to never discuss the size of a guy’s penis again. The world will definitely be a better place! 

And, remember, happy men are more likely to make us happy!

Thanks!

We have a sub-forum dedicated to success stories from our members. You can read the 30K+ posts here — Success Forum

However, one of the threads I enjoy reading the most is about member’s stories about how long it took to reach their first 1/2-inch. It shows just how unique we all are. That there’s no “one-size-fits-all” program. That some members gain that first 1/2-inch quickly, but others take longer. Now add the way men have reached this first goal and it helps new members realize there are a myriad of paths you can take to get where you want to be!

Let’s take a look at some of our most recent entries in this thread,

First half inch took me over 6 months, but that’s because I wasn’t doing it right.

After registering here 10 months ago, I’ve gained just over an inch in erect length (total gain 1.6 inches so far) and a full inch in girth.

As always, truly appreciate the encouragement and support from some of the regulars here. – paardarshie

paardarshie’s story is pretty common. Just like a traditional workout, if you’re not doing the exercises properly, at the proper intensity and/or at the proper frequency, you’re not going to see results. So glad he’s figured it out and happy to have him at PEGym!

I have been silently working here for almost 2 years. And I went from 6.75 to a little over 8. I experiment randomly with several different methods that are popular here to try to make muscle confusion sort of like sprinting and walking sprinting and walking sprinting and walking. Up from 5.5 girth to 6 girth. It’s not a fast process it’s going to take a while and commitment from anyone. So either way that you think about it you just have to keep pushing forward and you will eventually reach your goal. Basically what I am saying is it is not a Sprint, it is a marathon. The more time you put into it the more results you will get….. – GapWedge

GapWedge is so right! Body modification of any kind takes time! I love the interval training method he used to gain 1.25 inches! That and tenacity and consistency is clearly the key to his success!

I had to go back and consort my spreadsheet but I see it took me about 4.5 months to reach .5″ in length. This was from manual stretching only… – Theaceus07

Theaceus07 reached this initial benchmark with just manual stretching. That’s awesome! Enlargement devices, like penis pumps and penis extenders, can help make the penis enlargement process easier and faster, but with consistent effort, manual penis exercises can be effective in getting gains.

Thanks to everyone who has contributed to the “First 1/2-Inch” thread! Your posts help new members, and men thinking about trying penis exercises, know what to expect! That’s why our community is so awesome! We help each other!

Gynecomastia, also known as “man boobs”, can be devastating to a man. It’s not just a problem for men who are overweight. Even men who have a healthy percentage of body fat can suffer from gynecomastia. The result is the same though – embarrassment and insecurity can negatively affect a man’s personal and professional relationships.

What Causes Man Boobs?

Males mostly make a hormone called testosterone, which guides their sexual growth during puberty. But males also make some estrogen — the hormone that steers sexual growth in girls. When a boy is going through puberty, or when an older man’s body makes less testosterone, the balance of the two hormones changes.

Sometimes when that happens, a higher percentage of estrogen causes male breast tissue to swell. About half of adolescent boys and as many as two-thirds of men older than 50 will have this to some degree.

So, Why Do Man Boobs Happen?

A lot of things can trigger the hormone imbalance that causes gynecomastia, and many times the exact cause is unknown.  However, here are the most common reasons why males get man boobs:

• Puberty resulting in a hormonal imbalance
• Aging – as men get older and testosterone naturally drops, this can result in a hormonal imbalance
• Testicular injury, resulting in decreased testosterone
• Thyroid issues – altering hormonal production
• Some cancers – especially lung, pituitary gland and adrenal gland
• Obesity – men who are obese produce more estrogen
• Prescription drugs, especially for heart disease, cancer, depression, and ulcers
• Illegal drug use – especially marijuana, anabolic steroids and heroin
• Kidney failure
• Liver disease

Infants also can get gynecomastia  from estrogen passed through their mother’s milk.

How to Get Rid of Man Boobs

If you suspect you may have gynecomastia, the first step is to talk to a physician. Only through a physical examination can they determine if it is man boobs or something more serious, like cancer. Once it’s determined to be man boobs, the treatment will depend on your age and the suspected cause.

If you are overweight, your first course of action would be to lose the excess fat. This will not only help decrease the fat in your body, overall, but also help reduce the over abundance estrogen your body produces, which is common in overweight men. A high protein, low-glycemic carb diet, such as offered with Isagenix, combined with cardio and strength training, is the healthiest way to lose excess weight and keep or increase your lean muscle.

You may be referred to an endocrinologist, who can assist you with getting your hormone levels back in balance. If your man boobs are due to some other underlying cause, that will be treated.  In the most extreme cases, you may decide to pursue a surgical alternative – this can include liposuction to remove the fat or even a masectomy.

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers a question about the mental aspect of sex & coffee and erections, in this Ask the Experts article.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Kimberly at forum name – KMWylie – and she’ll have the experts here on PEGym get your questions answered.

Q.  I’ve read up on a lot of your stuff over the years and your mind-related posts…

…are the ones which interest me the most!  I feel like I’m weak minded when it comes to sex.  I can get it up but it’s hard for me to enjoy it fully because I’m always worried about my performance.  When I get a chance to have sex with a really attractive women is when it’s worst for me!  I wish I could go back to the days where sex was done like on instinct the way animals do it.  That way us men wouldn’t have to deal with all of this pressure!

Big Al:  The human mind has a very large range.  On the low end of the emotional spectrum we can wallow in fear and self-loathing.  As we rise through the emotional spectrum we ascend through the emotions of courage, reason, and peace/proficiency.  The path to the higher emotional states comes through utilizing your mind and by mastering yourself.  You alluded to performing at the level of animality.  As a man, you can develop yourself to go far above what you’ve be able to do without proper training and conditioning.  If you automatically see yourself as weak and leave yourself to the mercy of your lower mind, it’ll be difficult for you to improve your situation.  Focus on developing your courage and make the attempt at being objective about your performance and you’ll be able to condition yourself through training and by confidently undertaking real life experiences.

Q. What effect does coffee have on erections?…

…  I find when I drink a large coffee I get jittery and tend to turtle pretty hard.

Big Al:  Your reaction would depend on your tolerance to caffeine.

Small doses of caffeine may actually have a beneficial effect on erections. When excess is consumed and side effects like jitteriness is observed, vasoconstriction is induced.  This can have a negative effect on erections.

The following article (with references) may be of interest to you: “Drinking Coffee Could Help Prevent Erectile Dysfunction” https://www.pegym.com/articles/drinking-coffee-prevent-erectile-dysfunction

We were talking on a thread in the forums about testosterone, and that lead to a brief discussion on genetically modified foods/organisms (GMOs).

What Are GMOs?

Genetically modified organisms (this includes plants & animals used for both food or other livestock production, like sheep for wool), are created by the genes of one species are combined with the genes of an unrelated plant or animal. Think Island of Dr. Moreau, and you’re not  too far off!

The genes combined with our plants and animals sometimes come from other animals or plants, but also can come from insects, bacteria, viruses, even human DNA. The purpose is typically to create a hardier species or one that gives a greater production yield. The debate continues to be how these genetic changes affect us when we consume the plants and/or meat.

Of particular interest is wheat, since it is in so much of what we consume on a daily basis.

How Wheat Has Changed Over the Last 70 Years

Wheat has changed. The modern wheat we eat today is not the wheat our great-grandparents ate, in the 1950’s. As the author of Wheat Belly, cardiologist Dr. William Davis, noted we never heard about our great-grandma strapping on a pair of running shoes and going out for a run every day. Yet, despite the fact that our generation exercises more frequently, on average, we are, on average, more obese.

• Calorie consumption, especially in larger portion sizes, has a significant impact.
• The almost criminally misguided “Food Pyramid”, published in 1992, with it’s recommendation that we eat 2 to 4 servings of carbohydrates at EVERY meal, and the “low-fat” diet craze that fell on its heels, had an impact.
• Exacerbating these 2 factors has been what we’ve done to wheat.

In the 1970’s wheat underwent hybridization, and later in the 1980’s genetic modifications reduced it’s size, and increased yield. Farmers loved this hardier, more productive wheat. But, the changes to characteristics of wheat changed the way our body reacts to its consumption.

Most significantly, this new wheat was found to be an appetite stimulant.

As far back as 2009 the American Academy of Environmental Medicine was sounding the alarm about Genetically Modified Foods. Two physicians: Dean and Armstrong presented a statement paper in which they said:

It has been the practice that “safety assessment of GM foods has been based on the idea of “substantial equivalence” such that “if a new food is found to be substantially equivalent in composition and nutritional characteristics to an existing food, it can be regarded as safe as the conventional food. However, several animal studies indicate serious health risks associated with GM food consumption including infertility, immune dysregulation, accelerated aging, dysregulation of genes associated with cholesterol synthesis, insulin regulation, cell signaling, and protein formation, and changes in the liver, kidney, spleen and gastrointestinal system.

Money Makes the World Go Round and the GM Wheat Popular

Despite concerns, genetic modification became mainstream, thanks to the money that was to be had.

For the farmers, it was a boon. They had a hardier crop, that produced more wheat per acre than ever before.  Costs were down and production was up.

For the manufacturers, it was also a boon. The appetite stimulant of the new wheat meant demand increased.

For the seed producers, like Monsanto, it was a boon.

For the pharmaceutical industry, it was also a boon. Increased insulin resistance and diabetes was on the rise due to the higher glycemic index of this new wheat. The pancreas has a harder time producing enough insulin to meet this higher level of blood sugar. Over time, this higher load wears on the body and can lead to not just insulin resistance, but Type 2 diabetes. The treatment of diabetes, as well as obesity, is a business worth trillions of dollars annually. In fact, according to diabetes.org, 1 in 11 Americans has pre-diabetes and are in danger of developing Type 2 diabetes.

With so much money being made across multiple, politically powerful industries, GM wheat took over the market. And, it’s in nearly everything. It’s not just in breads, pastries and pastas, it’s in food we don’t necessarily think of as having “wheat.”

• Most processed food
• Soups
• Salad dressing
• Candy
• Granola
• Pickles
• Most packaged foods that have “natural flavorings” as an ingredient
• French fries
• Soy sauce
• And, SO much more!

If it’s a food that comes in a box, bag, bottle, or can, unless it specifically says that it is “gluten-free” it likely has some form of wheat in it.

Why Not Simply Avoid GM Wheat?

I wish it were as easy as avoiding GM wheat. There are some bakeries producing non-GMO bread, for instance. However, genetically modified wheat continues to be found in fields not approved to produce GM wheat.  This, obviously, leads to a concern.

However, even with non-GMO verified products, conditions such as leaky gut syndrome can occur.

GM Wheat: A Conclusion

For some people, wheat – even genetically modified wheat – isn’t an issue. Count yourself lucky if this is the case! However, for many, it’s a significant health concern.

If your weight is an issue, if your blood sugar numbers are high, talk to your doctor about the possibility of going gluten-free. Reducing carb intake is likely a dietary choice they’ll support, in general. And, if you’re jonesing for a sandwich or a cookie, there are lots of gluten-free options on the market (although I recommend still making your own, to avoid preservatives and other unhealthy additives that may be in these pre-packaged foods).