Despite the title of this article, I’m personally not anti-porn. Now, you might not expect that from a woman, but I truly do not believe porn is the root of all evil…
… when used in moderation.
Please read that bit again. Obviously, there are challenges that arise when someone develops a porn addiction or abuses porn and it negatively affects their relationship.
We’re not talking about that in this article. However, despite my general support of moderately viewed porn, I do think there are some problems with porn that arise even when porn is viewed responsibly.
- Distorted Body Image – Just like when women peruse Vogue and see the uber-tall size 0 fashion models in the latest couture and then worry that they’re “fat,” porn can give an unrealistic sense of what an average person’s body looks like. That guy with the 8-inch plus penis is not average. There’s a reason he’s working in porn, and part of it (like the whisper-thin supermodel) is because of their body. In addition to their penis size, male porn stars are 27 pounds lighter, on average, than the average American male. Thin and a large penis — it’s not a surprise that porn can give men penis envy. The good news is, if you’re unhappy with your penis size (beyond idealizing porn stars), there are things you can do about that! And, you’re in the right place!
- The Myth of Stamina – The marathon sessions of sex, complete with a never-ending erection, can make any average guy feel a little inadequate in the sack. First, it’s important to note that the average length of intercourse is between 3 and 7 minutes. That would make a pretty short movie. For this reason, and because porn stars have to be “up” for their scenes without fail, many actually use an injectable drug to keep them hard, for those incredibly long scenes. Of course, if you’d like to last longer in bed, we have resources that can not only help you last as long as you want, but also become multi-orgasmic.
- Confusion About What Women Want – I think this is probably the easiest porn problem to rectify, and you can do it with one simple word – Communication! Of course, every woman is different, so we don’t all enjoy the same things. Heck, we might enjoy something sometimes but not at other times. What can I say? We’re an enigmatic gender. However, don’t assume your partner wants to be treated like a porn star. We don’t always want to be pounded into the headboard. Facials really may not be her thing. She may not appreciate being twisted into a pretzel when a more comfortable position would more than get the job done. And, although many porn movies are eager to get to the main action — chances are your partner would really prefer some good foreplay. Talk about these things. Find out what your partner likes/doesn’t like. Don’t assume because you saw it in a porno that she’s going to think it’s hot.